Last week, I asked my friend Andrea, who just finished the online abuse recover program, on what topic I should do a video. Her response: "Be gentle with yourself."
I wish I could sit down and look you in the eye and tell you to be gentle with yourself.
There's a lot of pain and frustration that goes along with an abusive situation. It's so confusing.
You wonder how you could be so bad to bring out such crazy behavior in another human being. Then you figure out it's abuse and just how bad it is. Then your mind plays tricks and you wonder if it really was that bad.
It's soul crushing. It all takes its toll.
It's so important during this time to give yourself some grace. You're a child of divinity. You have a specific mission to accomplish, you have immense value and eternal worth and things to give to the world no one else does. You are an amazing human being. An amazing person. You have gifts, talents, and abilities no one else does.
But they've been buried for so long since your partner told you through comments, looks, and put downs that you have no value or worth.
Your partner is wrong.
Start a list of the things you like about you, things that you get excited about in life that light you up.
Do little things to take care of yourself. Take a bath. Read a book. Watch a YouTube video. Listen to your favorite song. Shut the bathroom door for 30 seconds and breath. Take a walk. If you're able to, get your hair or nails down. Climb a mountain.
For so long you've given your energy to someone else and all they've done is sucked that energy. Now is the time to take care of you.
Give yourself grace. Give yourself time to heal. Be gentle with yourself.
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